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Read This If You Befriend Your Team Members on Facebook

4 Apr

Social networking is a wonderful tool to build your business, but should direct sales leaders befriend their team members?

I recently heard a self- proclaimed direct sales expert encourage managers and directors to be friends with their team members on Facebook. She said that way you can get to know what is going on in the lives of your downline.  Some may wholeheartedly agree with this. Yet perhaps there is another way to look at this.

With regard to being offline – for those who work outside the home, are you good friends with your boss? What about your boss’s boss?  Does your boss regularly share photos of grandpa’s birthday party or of himself at the ballgame while enjoying some adult beverages? Does your boss start your weekly staff meetings by sharing her frustrations, her personal highs and lows?  Perhaps for some of you, this is true.  Though for most others, you do not socialize with the boss on your off time.

Some will be quick to defend that direct sales works differently than a “real job.”  That is a sad statement that partly contributes to the maligned reputation that if you have a direct selling business you don’t have a real job. For those who run their business like a business, then direct sales absolutely is a real job.

Still others reading this are saying that being a direct sales leader is not the same as being a boss.  No arguments there. If you are an independent consultant, you are not an employee; so technically you are correct – there is no boss and employee relationship. Notwithstanding, if you are a manager or director within the company or within your downline, you still should behave like a boss and set a good leadership example.

Back to your personal Facebook page: is it a good idea to befriend downline members on your personal Facebook page?

Some say Yes, it is a good idea. Their reasoning is that you’re all one big happy family and you want to share your life with the ‘sisters’ on your team and you want them to get to know you better.  You believe that you may be their manager but you’re a person first and they should get to see the good, the bad and the ugly about you.  Everyone on your team is a new friend and you’re just like blood relatives. You may also believe that you should know everything that they’re up to or that you want them to see how you market your business. You think befriending your team members is a fabulous idea.

Others say No way, it’s a terrible idea. If you’re truly running your business like a business, and if you are a manager or director, especially if you have a large downline, then you need to be able to have some time to yourself. Otherwise, if you’re on Facebook, and if you opt to befriend your downline, they can hit you up on chat and distract you from what you were doing while you are ‘on your own time.’ Your activity and status updates will also be scrutinized. You may work 12 hours a day on your business, but also post a couple different status updates a day, or share a YouTube or play a game – and suddenly there will be downline members that take those actions and assume you’re sitting on Facebook all day while they’re out working their tail off so you can earn a bag of money off of them.  Or you may be frustrated with an idiot driver or store clerk and want to let off steam. Suddenly, some of your downline will find cause to accuse you of being two-faced; all nicey-nice with them and a totally different person on Facebook.  Do you really want to have your every action scrutinized that closely?

There isn’t a right answer here, other than what is right for you and your situation. It’s just wise to consider both sides of the Facebook debate before you opt to befriend your downline. If you already accepted friends with many of your team and are now having second thoughts, perhaps it’s a good time to start a separate FB page just for your business. Then alert your friends that you’re moving your business type activity to the other page. When you delete them as friends, they’ll still have access to you on the work site.

The choice is yours; so choose wisely. I would love to read your comments on this.



Join Home Party Divas today for coaching, support, advertising and support for only $19.97 a month.

Debbie Shulman, Owner of Home Party Divas is a mom of 4 and a happy wife in a happy life. Lives in Florida. She loves direct sales and feels it is the best way to own a business without a large investment.


Wanna win $500 cash?

26 Mar

Women's Lifestyle Event

We are so excited for our first Women’s Lifestyle Event tomorrow night. One thing about putting events together is that it is very rewarding when you hear people say that they got new business from it.

It is hard.event [planning that is. Always wanting to make sure it is as successful as you hoped it would be. We are happy to have two sponsors for this event:

Tresha Barrett , MSW and Holistic Births and Beginnings will be speaking and offering a mini yoga class during our break out sessions.

We have many amazing exhibitors from financial, personal and business coaches. Services like teeth whitening, chiropractic (spinal checks), laser weight loss. And of course shopping. Vendors include kitchen tools, jewelry, home decor, fragrance, handbags, baby and soon to be mom services like Doula services through Holistic Births and Beginnings and Diaper Parties by Liz.

Complimentary hor’devours will be served. Cash Bar. Most importantly when people register and attend they are entered in drawings as well as our $ cash giveaway sponsored by us, Home Party Divas, LLC

You do not want to miss this. So join us at  6 pm tomorrow night. Register here- www.homepartydivas.net/register. Mention the person you referred you or just say Home Party Divas sent ya!




Theme Party Ideas Not Found on Most Lists

20 Mar

Do a search on home party ideas or home party themes and you’ll likely find a number of existing lists of ideas. Many of the lists contain the same standard beach party or chocolate lover’s party ideas. These are actually some fun ideas, but you’ve already hosted or considered one of these parties, right? Now you are searching for something different that not everyone is doing; time to spice it up a bit. If you want a fun, memorable party, do a “Tacky Party” theme.

Think tacky, tacky, tacky – the tackier, the better! Tell guests to dress tacky, but if they question what that means, don’t elaborate. This is the fun part.  Some may arrive mismatched, some a little promiscuous, and others just bizarre and weird. Seeing their individual interpretations of tacky is just part of the fun. I’ve heard of one guest who refused to participate in the tacky dress portion, but came to the party anyway. Some of the other guests really thought she’d put an effort into dressing tacky, when actually she was wearing her every day clothes. Whoops!

The winner of the tackiest outfit will get a prize, which is also tacky, such as an inexpensive sparkly lawn flamingo from a local craft store. I note this goes against everything I preach, about if you’re going to give away anything to make sure it is a product from your own catalog.  I’m assuming you probably don’t sell tacky items.  So, this is one exception to the rule. You can still send your guests home with a swag bag containing samples of your fabulous products, though.

Print the invitations on scrap paper left over from the neighborhood yard sale or from someone else’s sale flyer, such as what you may find in your weekly free newspaper. Just put a big “X” on the back to cross out the other sale information.

The hostess can serve tacky foods such as Pop Tarts, Slim Jim’s, prunes, Little Debbie snacks, generic, off-brand soda and wine in a box; even better if she has leftover party plates and napkins from her kid’s birthday parties. If not, these are usually available at thrift stores for pennies. Your hostess will love this idea because it’s so easy to prepare the refreshments. How much effort does it take to break up a few Pop Tarts and open up Little Debbie snacks?!

As the consultant, you should participate in the theme as well. Wear a skirt with gym socks and high heels; make a t-shirt using a Sharpie and every single home party slogan you have ever heard, such as “Earn Some Free When You Party with Me” or “Is Money Low? Book a Show” or “I wish I may, I wish I might, have all the products I see tonight!”  You could try “Just Book a Show” or “Join My Team.”  Individually, these slogans are not so bad, but when you have a dozen different ones, it is definitely tacky. Check out the stickers at: thebooster.com, if you need more ideas.

If your hostess really wants her party to be remembered for years to come, she can decorate her front yard with a clothes line featuring giant granny panties and a bra, broken lawn chairs, old tires, and an empty case of beer.

Fun times! If it’s a little too over the top for you, remember that theme parties can be as big or as little as you like. I personally think if you’re going to play, then play big.  You can still have a fun “Tacky Party” if you scale it down a bit. If your guests are having fun, it’s contagious and they’re more likely to buy more. It’s win/win!



Join Home Party Divas today for coaching, support, advertising and support for only $19.97 a month.

Debbie Shulman, Owner of Home Party Divas is a mom of 4 and a happy wife in a happy life. Lives in Florida. She loves direct sales and feels it is the best way to own a business without a large investment.